Why Should You Be A Writer?

Those lines and wrinkles hold the stories and secrets of a life well lived.

Hands are important to me and not for the obvious reasons about all they allow us to do.

They are my connection to the past, the present and the future.

Look at my father’s hands and then look at mine and unless you can see our faces or bodies you won’t know to whom they belong.

Look at my son’s and you’ll see he has them too. I noticed it the day he was born and have used the size of his hands as a silent measurement of his physical growth.

All three of us have the same feet too, except the youngest currently owns a pair that almost look too big for his body. When he tells me he is shorter than most of his friends I point to his feet and tell him he is going to grow into those and that the time is coming when he’ll look me in the eye standing up.

Why Should You Be A Writer?

Every time someone asks me why I am a writer I ask them what I should be. Sometimes they tell me I should have become an attorney or a doctor.

Sometimes they tell me I should have done something with programming. “You like technology Josh, you could still become a software engineer.”

I nod my head and smile. I could have done all of those things and if I choose to make a change I can do them all now.

Every single one of those options is open to me. They are not out of reach. I am not too old nor am I incapable of doing the work it would take to get the education and experience that leads to a career in any one of those fields.

But that is not who I have chosen to be. While I would never say it is impossible for me to follow any of those paths for the moment it is unlikely.

I am a writer because I like arranging words and because this is as natural as breathing to me. Much of it is effortless, I don’t think about what I am doing, I just do it.

But that doesn’t preclude the need for practice or prevent me from understanding that I can do more with what I have by taking steps to push myself.

My parents say I have always had an active imagination and been a storyteller and that fits with my own memories because I don’t recall a time when I didn’t.

There is an art to it all. There was a time when I thought that was hokey and kind of ridiculous but not any more. Now when I write I want people to feel something.

No tears in the writer, no tears in the reader. No surprise in the writer, no surprise in the reader.” ― Robert Frost

This is why you have to pick at the scabs and poke the scars of your own life and sometimes others.

You have to find things that people relate to, things that move them. You need to paint a picture in their mind and then let their imagination and their memories of their experiences fill in the gaps.

If I knew how to do it with a brush I’d paint a picture. If I knew how to write music that would move you then that is what I would do.

Sometimes I wonder if I could learn how to use a camera to take pictures and videos that would do so too.

There Will Never Be Enough Time

There will never be enough time for me to do what I want to do. If I got the good genes and nothing too crazy happens you’ll be stuck with me for another 50 or 60 years, maybe even another 90.

But that is not enough time for me to chase after all of the butterflies, live in all the places and do all of the different things I want to do.

Some of you have accused me of being too firmly focused in the now and others say I spend too much time in the when but you misunderstand how loudly I hear the ticking of the clock and how often I feel like I racing the sun.

I hear you say ‘Why?’ Always ‘Why?’ You see things; and you say ‘Why?’ But I dream things that never were; and I say ‘Why not?” -George Bernard Shaw

I don’t need your approval nor do I ask for it. You don’t have to believe as I do or see as I see. You do you and I’ll do me.

It is how it has always been and how it always shall be.

Technology may advance or it may regress but people are who we have always been and we are who we choose to be.

I choose to be the storyteller. I choose to be the guy who tries to use words to make you feel something. Maybe you’ll laugh, maybe you’ll cry or maybe I’ll make you really, really angry but that is ok with me.

A writer who can’t make people feel something isn’t a very good writer.

And in the world I live in a writer who hasn’t lived and loved a little can’t match up against the one who has. That doesn’t have to apply to your world.

You don’t need to please, entertain or amuse everyone nor should you try. But if you don’t manage to touch someone than that might be a sign it is time to mix things up a little.

“A poem begins as a lump in the throat, a sense of wrong, a homesickness, a lovesickness.” ― Robert Frost” ― Robert Frost
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By Joshua Wilner

Hi, I am Josh Wilner and I am happy that you have decided to visit my corner of cyberspace. I am a writer/marketer/friend and family man. My professional background includes more than twenty years in working with businesses to help them do a better job of connecting with their existing and prospective customers. More specifically I have worked with companies of all sizes from the Fortune 500 to the new start up to help them build, develop and grow their social media and marketing plans. I love spending time with my family and friends. I enjoy music, reading, writing, playing sports and laughing.

6 comments

  1. Hi Joshua,

    I’ve found being naked to my audience – clothed, of course 😉 – makes them listen. Some listeners are genuinely touched by what I wrote. I wrote, and write, and write, and write, until my fingers hurt at times, because I’m both mildly obsessed with writing, and I know, that writing a bunch makes the good old truth serum flow through me.

    Ya know, the scabs and wounds and other little stuff you advised me pick at.

    Doctors tell you to let ’em heal, Josh, to pick at them. I agree with you Josh, at least when we’re talking writing 😉 Digging, deep, by writing frequently, makes your writing authentic and the more authentic you become, the more you’ll inspire like-minded folks, to attack their problems, and to live their dreams.

    You’re doing a wonderful job as an author; you’re being you 🙂

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us Josh. I’ll be back soon!

    Ryan

    1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
      Josh says:

      @ryanbiddulph:disqus We are definitely on the same page here. That authenticity is what provides people with a real opportunity to connect with us. It enables them to see our real side and understand we are just like them or so the theory goes.

      In practice that seems to work pretty well for me and it sounds like it has for you too. Hope you are enjoying your time overseas and that you are having a great day.

  2. Good for you for being so content and clear on who you are.

    1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
      Josh says:

      @Lardavbern:disqus It helps with planning the future.

  3. kaarinadillabough – Business coach, mentor, muse: lover of life & livin' it to the max! Former Olympic broadcaster/coach. Single malt fan. Passionate about helping others succeed.
    Kaarina Dillabough says:

    Lovely. Timely. I relate:) Cheers! Kaarina

    1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
      Josh says:

      @kaarinadillabough:disqus Thank you, I had a feeling you might.

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