It Is Only Funny/Interesting When He Says it

One of the interesting things about the blogosphere is the reception our word/topics/ideas are given by those that hear/read/watch them.

If you go back to the post about the echo chamber you’ll see my complaint about groupthink and why it is important to mix up our reading so that we are exposed to different ideas.

What it didn’t address there was influence and how two different people can write about the same topic and generate very different responses. For the sake of clarity let me flesh this out a bit for you.

Blogger A writes about why people should use ketchup in their cereal and receives a very tepid response and a couple of comments about why it is a ridiculous suggestion.

Blogger B covers the same topic in the very same manner. They don’t provide any more support for their position than Blogger did, but the response they receive is far different.

It is enthusiastic and welcoming.

What Happened?

If their posts made an equally compelling argument for why we should use ketchup on our cereal you probably find yourself asking why they received different responses. 

I suppose we could conduct a really thorough analysis and figure out who has a done a better job of building community and developing trust among their readers. We could talk about whether one of them routinely provides better content, but that is not really what we are talking about here.

What we are discussing is something that is harder to pin down, it is really more about charisma and the impact that has upon how people respond to us.

Is it Better To Be Liked Than Talented?

Chances are we have all seen the impact of charisma upon people in real life and I am willing to bet we have seen it in multiple places and situations.

There are people in school, work and life in general who are just well liked and it seems like it doesn’t matter what they do, people like them. You can tell the same story and the same joke and you won’t ever be as funny or clever as they are.

Sometimes I wonder if it is better to be well liked than talented. Call that a derivation of the is it better to be lucky than skilled question that people sometimes discuss.

Does Any Of This Matter?

Does any of this matter?

Is it really significant?

Does it have an impact on your our lives?

Those are subjective questions so I don’t a collective answer to share with you, but I am curious to hear what you think about the topic in general.

Have you run into this before? Does it bother you?

Let me know in the comments.

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By Joshua Wilner

Hi, I am Josh Wilner and I am happy that you have decided to visit my corner of cyberspace. I am a writer/marketer/friend and family man. My professional background includes more than twenty years in working with businesses to help them do a better job of connecting with their existing and prospective customers. More specifically I have worked with companies of all sizes from the Fortune 500 to the new start up to help them build, develop and grow their social media and marketing plans. I love spending time with my family and friends. I enjoy music, reading, writing, playing sports and laughing.

4 comments

  1. lisabgerber – Sandpoint, Idaho – Founder and owner of Big Leap Creative, storyteller for organizations. Digital marketing strategist. On the perpetual search to balance happiness with ambition. Mountain girl, wife and mother of two beautiful dogs.
    Lisa Gerber says:

    While so much has changed, nothing has changed. It can definitely still be a popularity contest. But l like you JUST said on my blog the other day, it’s kind of nice not to worry about it, and to just write what you want to write. Sometimes it will work, sometimes it won’t.
    To answer your question: No. It doesn’t matter. 🙂

    1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
      Josh says:

      Hi Lisa,

      It is much more enjoyable to write without concern or care, especially because it really doesn’t matter.

      Most of the “chaos” surrounding blogging is narishkeit and provides little to no reason to be concerned.

      Sometimes we forget it, or maybe I forget it.

  2. I think energetically you are who you are and you are meant to be and do certain things. And same thing for the other guy. It’s always interesting when I see people wildly succeed who (to me) aren’t the one I’d pick to be on that platform or pedestal. If there’s a time when you say to yourself,”Hey, how come they get that and I don’t?” that’s the calling that compels you to go on to much more achievement in your own life. If we get to the jealousy stage that’s pratically like I shouting out,”DO THAT THING.” Then when the time is right, if we’ve put in the energy and done our work, it happens.

    1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
      Josh says:

      Hi Julie,

      Funny you should mention that, I was thinking today about a few people who have been wildly successful in areas that I never would have imagined to be good for them.

      Sometimes people fool us.

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