I could tell you to start with reading When Trouble Came Looking or to go check out the other stuff you missed even though you have the keys to the kingdom but I think I’ll hold off.
That’s what I said to the reflection about 15 minutes after I finished reading reviews of doctors.
It came after I reminded the guy in the reflection not to do any work on vacation and then laughed because that guy does what he thinks is right…always.
Some hours later my daughter, the one who moves into the dorms this week rolled through Costco to pick up a few necessary items for college life.
We talked about her class schedule, work and potential extra curricular activities.
I told her that I had no opinion on whether she should go Greek but pushed the idea of finding something to get involved in.
She didn’t make any plans for rush this year and I think it has already passed so it is not happening now and I am not surprised to see her skip it.
Anyhoo I pushed her to keep her eyes open to potential opportunities and to not be afraid to go after some of them because this is a time of life with a particular kind of freedom.
Various people have asked me if I am upset about the changes and tried to tell me there are things I don’t understand about empty nests.
Most days I nod and smile or ignore it because I have done the empty nest thing before.
Thought it was very different because the kids were little and I was the one who left not by choice but because it had to be done.
It wasn’t easy to give up time with them but when you have to provide you do what you need to and that is what I did.
Sometimes it bothers me but most days I am pretty good about it because I can see the crops I planted flourishing.
And given that I can’t go back I have to accept this and be happy with it.
It has helped in other areas because I have learned to live with the silence and know that sometimes those who go quiet show back up in your life.
You stay busy and one day the quiet is broken.
Shared that wisdom with the kids more than once but I don’t know if they have really gotten it yet but I expect they will.
Got a few ideas for some longer form pieces that I am working on but haven’t decided where to publish, if I publish them at all.
But am pushing myself to begin writing like I used to because there is something that is fighting to get out of my head.
Changes are coming, the old ways are done.