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You know what happens when you don’t go to the dentist for about three years?

You sit down at your computer on a Sunday night and fumble for the right words for a post you are trying to right.

It is not because you can’t come up with anything to say or because your mouth hurts too damn much to write but because of a combination of things.

Parts of your mouth ache and so does your wallet because it knows that the bill that is coming to fix what you have ignored isn’t going to be pretty.

Subscribe At Your Own Risk

There is a certain beauty in those five words.

It lies somewhere between the multiple meanings and references that you can draw from them.

You might interpret those to be specific to the posts that litter and line this blog. You might see it as the writer’s commentary or maybe you’ll find it to mean something else.

Maybe you’ll look at it as I do and think of it in reference to the multiple subscriptions I have to newsletters and magazines.

Because you’ll see a stack of magazines waiting to be read that is matched by an electronic pile of material that requires my attention.

And you’ll understand that time or a lack thereof is the keystone of this particular arch.

You’ll hold an ongoing inner dialogue in which you remind yourself about the critical importance you place upon reading and the need to pare down the pile to be read because time is limited.

Subscribe at your own risk in those terms is about determining what you eliminate from your day so you can make time to read whatever you are thinking about subscribing too.

My children have heard me say that time is a choice.

People who want to be a part of our lives will always work with us to find a way to spend time together and that we should focus our attention on them.

They have heard me say that we always have a choice about how we spend our time and that what we do within those moments speaks volumes.

But they have also heard me say we also need to find ways to turn off our heads and just be.

Spend too much time running on the hamster wheel and you will burn out. Maybe not today and maybe not tomorrow, but one day.

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Free time is never as free as we want it to be but the price isn’t always as expensive as we make it out to be.

Unless you skip going to the dentist like I did and then you pay with both physical and emotional discomfort.

Don’t mistake that to mean that I am so wealthy I don’t care about the financial costs associated with the coming visit because I am well aware of what it might be.

And that ‘what it might be’ bothers me because I know that it could have been less had I gone sooner than later.

It is only partially mitigated by acknowledging I was unemployed during a chunk of that time and thought it was more important to pay for my family’s care than my own.

I figured it was better to roll the dice and see if I could avoid major issues for myself and hope that by sending them they wouldn’t develop anything serious either.

Time & Technology

During the past ten years or so time has been one of the key elements in every smartphone or computer purchase I have made.

Upgrade or replacement was based upon a couple of simple questions:

  1. How much time do I spend doing things to make the computer/phone work?
  2. How much am I willing to spend to replace it so that I don’t have to waste time wrestling with dying technology?

For the sake of clarity that doesn’t mean my first option was to dump the computer or phone so that I could buy a new one.

I always tried to find a way to fix the problem first but there always came a time when it didn’t make sense to keep repairing or trying to do so.

It was only when that point was reached that the decision was made to purchase something new. The same sort of rationale went into decisions about cars too.

We All Have Choices To Make

We all have choices to make and the ability to make choices.

Sometimes we forget this.

I try to remind the kids to remember to own their choices.

I try to remind them that friends and family will remember what we did or didn’t do and how we made them feel.

Sometimes it is legitimate. Sometimes we are busy because we are doing important things and sometimes, well the things we are doing aren’t really that important.

Life is all about the choices we make or do not.

Someone pass me my phone, it is time to make the damn appointment.

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By Joshua Wilner

Hi, I am Josh Wilner and I am happy that you have decided to visit my corner of cyberspace. I am a writer/marketer/friend and family man. My professional background includes more than twenty years in working with businesses to help them do a better job of connecting with their existing and prospective customers. More specifically I have worked with companies of all sizes from the Fortune 500 to the new start up to help them build, develop and grow their social media and marketing plans. I love spending time with my family and friends. I enjoy music, reading, writing, playing sports and laughing.

2 comments

  1. kaarinadillabough – Business coach, mentor, muse: lover of life & livin' it to the max! Former Olympic broadcaster/coach. Single malt fan. Passionate about helping others succeed.
    Kaarina says:

    Ah…time…I share with people that you can’t make time (there are only so many hours in a day and you can’t create more), and you can’t find time (it’s not hiding under a rock), you can only take time…carve out space in your day to do the important things. Know what’s important and do it. Be outcomes focused, not outputs “busy”. Now go take some time and book that appointment 🙂 Cheers!

    1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
      Joshua says:

      Outcomes focused is exactly what I have been trying to teach myself to do.
      Busy is great, but it is meaningless when it is not tied to goals.

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