He drew himself up to his full height, puffed out his chest and asked, “What do you want from me?”
I told him it is the wrong question and he sighed and made some comment about being frustrated that his answers would never be good enough for me.
“You need to listen carefully. The right question is what do I want for you and not from you. I am your father. I want the best for you. Sometimes that might mean pushing you to reach for and beyond your potential.”
We went back and forth a bit as parents and children do and I did my best to listen and hear what he had to say.
Since it pushing midnight and we both needed sleep I didn’t pull out the quote I wanted to share with him.
Hell, I am still trying to figure out what approach is best for me.
Should we use savor instead of consume or is it just a game of semantics because I know what I am trying to say.
The point is I don’t want to just pass through life. I want to make an impact and be impacted. It is a two way street here, if you don’t know I was there than what did I do with my life.
And if I don’t know you were there, than what did you do with yours.
Gratitude & Awareness
The secret to life isn’t just based in experiences.
It is not just about driving fast cars and going on trips or doing things that are different from your daily experiences.
Those are important and significant but so is being aware of how lucky you are to have these opportunities when they come and to be grateful for them.
So the question of what I want from and for the kids is pretty simple. Gratitude and awareness and the realization that although we have limited control over many things it doesn’t mean we don’t have it over some things.
I want them to put themselves in a position to taste life and to say they have lived and not just passed through.
That is what I want for and from them.