The Secret To A Life Worth Living

If I went solely off of my first impression I would describe him as being a pasty-faced man with beady eyes and in desperate need of a mirror.

His voice didn’t help his cause either, it was a mix of soft and squeaky with a dose of desperation and used car salesman.

I’d like to tell you that none of that influenced my feelings but it wouldn’t be true. Granted his cause wasn’t helped by his approaching me at a gas station pump to ask me if I was interested in his secret.

I was in between appointments and had there been more than a quarter tank of gas left in my car I wouldn’t have stopped until later that day.

But there wasn’t enough gas to get me through the day and the gas fairy doesn’t visit my house in the dead of night to refill my tank.

Sorry to say, this is not my car.

He came from other side of the station and weaved in between people and cars, but it wasn’t until he got to me that he stopped to talk to anyone.

“Sir, I wrote a book about the secret to life and I am wondering if you would like to buy a copy.”

I’ll admit I barely heard what he said to me, my mind was focused on a dozen different things and none of them involved buying books at a gas station.

“No thank you, I’ll pass today.”

“Sir, it would be a real mistake. It is a secret I want to share with others.”

“You just told me that you want to sell the book to me. It doesn’t really sound much like sharing to me.”

“That is a real shame mister, you are missing out on a real opportunity.”

I didn’t tell him that a condescending voice and poor attitude aren’t particularly useful for sales and instead said that life is a series of opportunities missed and taken advantage of.

He grumbled something at me and then shuffled off but instead of focusing upon what I had to do I thought about an experience my family had a few days earlier.

One of the kids doing a ridealong in a Corvette Z06.

The picture above is of a Corvette Z06 being driven by a professional driver out at the Auto Club speedway.

What you can’t see is the smile on the face of my son/daughter (they both did it) as that driver took them on the kind of adventure that many of us never get to experience.

He pushed that car around the track at ridiculous speeds and when it was over the kids showed me the kind of smiles I haven’t seen in a while.

Don’t mistake that to mean they don’t smile or laugh because they do it with regularity, but this was different.

It was the kind of smile I remember them having when they were really little and they figured out how to do something big and important.

Now that they are in middle and high school it take a bit more for that particular smile to come out.

That is the kind of smile that every parent loves to see because it is magical and because when you see it at this age you know that it is tied into something they will remember for a long time to come.

And if you add the multiple ‘thank yous’ they gave their mother and I it makes it even better because it shows they understand how to be grateful and gracious.


I have told the kids more than once they need to be open to taking opportunities when they come and that sometimes life is like a highway.

You can only see so far down the road so you can’t plan or anticipate everything but you can look at it as being an adventure.

It is kind of goofy and silly but it works and life has way too much serious stuff so goofy and silly can be useful.

So if you ask me to tell you what the secret is to a life worth living I’d say it is having the courage to go live and to do things that push you outside of your comfort zone.

That doesn’t have to mean extreme sports either, just has to be something that makes your heart pump a little bit.

Something that sets off that electrical feeling inside, that and gratitude. If you have those things, well you have a lot.

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By Joshua Wilner

Hi, I am Josh Wilner and I am happy that you have decided to visit my corner of cyberspace. I am a writer/marketer/friend and family man. My professional background includes more than twenty years in working with businesses to help them do a better job of connecting with their existing and prospective customers. More specifically I have worked with companies of all sizes from the Fortune 500 to the new start up to help them build, develop and grow their social media and marketing plans. I love spending time with my family and friends. I enjoy music, reading, writing, playing sports and laughing.

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  1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
    admin says:

    Hi Tim,

    Yeah, turned out that Social Warfare was causing issues, hoping they get those worked out.

    The driving was exceptionally fun, so very glad we got to do it and hope to try it again. The more time we get doing those things that set off those feelings, the better.

    1. That’s interesting Josh that Social Warfare was the culprit. I was thinking of getting it but will hold off!

      Danny uses it on his theme. I’m wondering whether he had any issues?

      1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
        Joshua Wilner says:

        Chris at Mean Themes found a solution for me so it works now.

        1. That’s great news! I might just have to splash out in the not too distant future.

  2. That looks like a whole lot of fun Josh!

    Great to see your home page is working how you want it to as well.

    I’ll need to think about what sets that electrical feeling off inside. Often it’s something as banal as playing games with my kids.

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