5 Things A Dead Guy Could Teach My Children

I was about 14 the first time I met my friend Mr. Emerson but I didn’t like him.

Maybe it was because it was my 9th grade English class and I found his essay on Self-Reliance to be dull and uninspiring.

Or maybe it was because I thought a man who had died long ago had nothing useful to offer to modern society, especially one that was as advanced as the one I lived in.

Have I mentioned my children think of my childhood as being the province of ancient technology and old people?

Today I am many years removed from 14 and am happy to say I was wrong to disparage Mr. Emerson’s thoughts and ideas because many of them are timeless.

In fact I have used all of the quotes included in this post with my children, especially the one at the top of this.

It is always in the context of reminding them that if you are going to cite someone  or something you need to understand what you are saying and be able to tell people why it is significant.

That is more important than ever before because during a time when you can Google the answers to questions you need to be able to do more than cut and paste the answer to a question.

One of the most common complaints I hear from other parents is that our children have become too sedentary and that they never disconnect from their electronic devices.

A good walk isn’t just about the physical exercise, it is about the mental side too. It is about taking a moment to be alone with your thoughts and not tethered to something that beeps, whistles or plays music the entire time.

If you don’t believe this you haven’t spent any time with people, especially online.

Sometimes you have to remember that it doesn’t matter if you say the water is boiling the person you are talking to will refuse to acknowledge it even though the aforementioned water has been dumped upon their head.

There are times where you have to be willing to stand alone and accept that others won’t stand with you even though it is obvious.

Don’t be afraid to be your own person. While it is smart to go along with everyone so you can get along there is always a time where it is best to be your own man/woman.


Solitude is nice but life is meant to be shared with others, especially those who have shared many adventures/experiences with you.

Old friends are invaluable.

I have been known to make fun of list posts and to suggest they are the low hanging fruit of the blogosphere.

Many are poorly written constructs whose primary purpose is to serve as linkbait to generate a quick burst of traffic for a blog.

I often wonder what the bounce rate is for those posts and how many new readers you obtain by putting those things out.

But I try to remind myself there is no single path to success in the blogosphere and even people we dislike can teach us something useful.

If the premise is to work smarter and not harder than one of the answers is to keep your eyes open to try and see what you can learn from the people you meet.

What do you think?

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By Joshua Wilner

Hi, I am Josh Wilner and I am happy that you have decided to visit my corner of cyberspace. I am a writer/marketer/friend and family man. My professional background includes more than twenty years in working with businesses to help them do a better job of connecting with their existing and prospective customers. More specifically I have worked with companies of all sizes from the Fortune 500 to the new start up to help them build, develop and grow their social media and marketing plans. I love spending time with my family and friends. I enjoy music, reading, writing, playing sports and laughing.

4 comments

  1. I really enjoyed this piece Joshua. You proved that lists aren’t necessarily the bane of the blogging world.

    1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
      Joshua says:

      Thank you Darrell.

      I have learned quite a bit from some list posts, they aren’t all bad. Unfortunately some lazy bloggers see them as an easy way to game the system and they put together posts that are poorly constructed.

  2. I studied the transcendentalists in Grad School.
    Trust thyself.

    1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
      Joshua says:

      If I was to go back to school I think the transcendalists and I would have a different relationship than before. Trust thyself and the strings of ‘my’ heart feels entirely different now than when I was 14.

      Did you like them?

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