Everyone Knows Better Than You Do


Earlier this week I read an article about a university professor who was attacked for things they said on their private Facebook page.

The commentary in question was almost two years old and was only discovered because someone went digging through the offenders Facebook updates.

I can’t tell you what prompted the research.

Can’t say whether they did so because they were looking for dirt or if they had found previous posts to be entertaining and were in search of more.

What I  know is they decided these posts were so offensive it merited contacting the university to ask for public censure of the professor because they considered the words to be hate speech.

During a conversation about the story some acquaintances of mine said they would never want to be a college professor because the atmosphere on campuses has moved from an interest in discussing multiple points-of-view to intolerance for a narrative others don’t share.

When I asked one of the people I was speaking with how they knew college campuses had become so intolerant they told me I should be quiet because Everyone Knows Better Than You Do.

Hypocrisy?

The person who suggested this doesn’t know me well enough to know you won’t intimidate me into silence by assuming an aggressive stance and authoritative tone.

So ignored their response and politely asked again what they based their comment upon. It wasn’t supposed to be  adversarial, I was just curious to learn more about where they got their information from.

I have friends and family who work at different universities across the country and wondered if this intolerance was regional or national.

Was it based solely upon a particular topic or topics or was it broader in scope?

After I asked him again if he could give some insight into the question he repeated his assertion that I should be quiet so I asked him if enjoyed irony.

He told me he didn’t follow what I was saying so I asked him if he thought it was hypocritical to say university students should be tolerant of multiple views when he clearly was unwilling to extend the same courtesy.

This is where the story grows interesting.

He told me he deserved an apology for insulting his integrity and said if I didn’t give him one we would have to go outside so that he could defend his honor.

I said if he was anxious to go outside I would be happy to defenestrate him.

When he asked me what that meant I threw him out the window and said there was no better education than to learn by doing.

My Confession

I did not throw him out the window nor did I threaten to.

All I am guilty of is thinking he was unnecessarily churlish and a boor to boot.

That is a fancy way of saying he was a jerk and if experience has taught me anything a well timed smile is often a more effective tool for dealing with a jerk than anything else.

The question about whether universities are hotbeds of intolerance or places where higher learning takes place is of some interest to me but it is not pressing.

I have a few years before my oldest goes off to school and frankly I have other challenges that require my immediate attention.

What this moment did remind me of is how insecure some people can be.

Sterile Writing

The story that prompted the discussion also made me think about the thoughts and ideas I share here.

Some friends and family have suggested that I make a conscious effort to not write about anything controversial because someone might review my writing and decide not to hire me based upon an opinion I have voiced.

Part of me sees that as practical advice and another part screams about the damage sterile writing can do to engagement.

Vanilla may be safe in ice cream but it is not nearly as effective for bloggers. If you want to encourage your readers to hang around and visit you need to give them a little bit more.

What do you think?

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By Joshua Wilner

Hi, I am Josh Wilner and I am happy that you have decided to visit my corner of cyberspace. I am a writer/marketer/friend and family man. My professional background includes more than twenty years in working with businesses to help them do a better job of connecting with their existing and prospective customers. More specifically I have worked with companies of all sizes from the Fortune 500 to the new start up to help them build, develop and grow their social media and marketing plans. I love spending time with my family and friends. I enjoy music, reading, writing, playing sports and laughing.

6 comments

  1. I think there are some Unis that can be very handed. The shove a certain ideology down the student’s throats.

    1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
      Joshua says:

      I agree with that. Disappointing.

  2. My two cents. What makes you unique and hirable is your voice. Your voice comes out when you are engaged and in the flow, which sometimes comes with controversial topics. But not always. If something feels like it needs to be written, it does. Where you place it is up to you. Use your judgment. Sterility results in no creation or babies birthed.

    1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
      Joshua says:

      Sterile offers the same value as watching paint dry. If we don’t insert something more into our content we ask our readers to click away, turn the page or change the dial.

      Just not effective.

  3. Hi Josh,

    This is a very interesting topic. One part of us need to do what our clients like (this way they will like us), the other part should do things that make us stand out and be different from the rest. If we just keep doing what the rest are doing, it’ll be harder than ever to get clients and to make a living.

    1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
      Joshua says:

      Hi Jens,

      I agree. We have to find a place where we distinguish ourselves and our work from everyone else because doing as everyone else does makes it harder to present compelling reasons for our clients to work with us.

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