Sometimes when I listen to my daughter I hear my middle sister speaking. She tells me she hates reading because she doesn’t like being told that she needs to do it and says history is a waste of time.
When I explain to her why I disagree and encourage her not to argue with me about things she won’t change my mind on she’ll ask me why I am acting like this and I’ll tell her she is asking the wrong question.
That often leads us to a wide ranging discussion about the why an education is important, how she is more like her father than she realizes and how her aunt learned to love to read which reminds me, I need to ask her if she has learned to love history yet.
Aw, the hell with that I am going to say she did and mark that off as more proof she should never argue with her big brother because he knows more than she does.
Anyhoo, my comment about asking the right questions is more on point for personal and professional reasons than my daughter realizes but since she is 10.5 going on 30 I’ll give her a break.
Are You Asking The Right Questions?
The first time I definitively remember someone saying anything about it was during a job interview.
I was a 27 year-old newlywed interviewing for a position working at a mortuary. Had I gotten the job you might have been regaled with tales of how I used to work with stiffs.
Somewhere during the middle of the interview the hiring manager asked me if I had any questions and replied by telling me I wasn’t asking the right questions.
She was so aggressive in her response I sat back in the chair and wondered if I was in the right place but I am grateful for it because it made me think more carefully and analytically about what I was asking.
Part of it made me laugh because more than a few people have told me I ask too many questions. Blame that on a journalist/writer/storyteller and a guy who wants to know what happens if I press that button I am not supposed to press.
But it made sense to a guy who is curious about everything to refine and hone the questions to maximize time and return.
Made sense to think about my goals and objectives so that I could start figuring out what questions I needed to ask so I could build a road map that would enable me to hit those goals.
How Do You Tell Their Story?
I have sat in job interviews and had conversations with people who wanted to pick my brain about how I would market a product/company/service or what approach I would take to tell a story and told them I didn’t know what questions to ask.
That wasn’t me putting them off, it was me building the foundation for saying I didn’t always know enough about the product/company/service to give a substantive answer.
Without a bit more knowledge I wondered if I was going to miss including critical details like whether Drug XYZ had significant side effects or the warning not to tear the sticker off of the mattress.
Have we talked about how sometimes asking questions helps you figure out new and innovative ways to use common kitchen appliances?
Actually I don’t know how the author of the video below figured the things he talks about in the video. They may have just known they could do it or figured it out by accident.
Or maybe they thought their might be additional uses and asked the right questions of the manufacturer.