A Question of Priorities

“I wish it need not have happened in my time,” said Frodo.
“So do I,” said Gandalf, “and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.”
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring

“I don’t know half of you half as well as I should like; and I like less than half of you half as well as you deserve.”
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring

“All that is gold does not glitter,
Not all those who wander are lost;
The old that is strong does not wither,
Deep roots are not reached by the frost.

From the ashes a fire shall be woken,
A light from the shadows shall spring;
Renewed shall be blade that was broken,
The crownless again shall be king.”
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring

The Pinterest and social media crowds will yell at me for not including some kind of imagery in this post. There is no picture, logo or graphic.

All that you find here is black and white and for the moment it suits me because in a time of irritation I prefer to ignore the shades of grey that life presents and view things as good or bad, friend or foe, with us or against us.

It is not a sophisticated or worldly manner to view the world nor is it how I teach my children to look at things but at the moment it suits me just fine.

Suits me because I am irritated by a host of things and I prefer to use the same narrow perspective others do to see if perhaps the world is any more enjoyable this way.

A Question Of Priorities

Life often comes down to a question of priorities and the understanding we aren’t always going to agree about what order they should be handled in, not to mention if said thing should be listed as a priority anyway.

It is hard for me take the uproar about Phil Robertson seriously because I don’t make any sort of connection to free speech here. Since his wasn’t abrogated I don’t have a problem with his being held accountable for what he said. His family won’t go hungry or be homeless if the show continues or is canceled.

But there are others who face greater challenges because they have lost a child and in the scheme of life that is much more challenging and far more serious.

In my world there is a Bar Mitzvah coming down the pike at breakneck speed and that is of far more import too.

Los Angeles didn’t solve the homeless problem while I was in Texas nor did it find a way to feed more people. The hungry and homeless are still around but they operate in their usual state of invisibility.

If we really dig into politics some of you will end up digging through the barrel of pejorative terms you use to describe those people you disagree with.

It won’t bother me because that old rhyme about sticks and stones was tattooed upon my innards long ago and my focus is upon more immediate concerns like that Bar Mitzvah I mentioned.

Bubble People

A short while ago I had to fight my way into the parking lot at the dry cleaners. That is because a man driving an SUV chose not to park his car and was blocking quite a bit of the lot.

I can’t tell you why he thought it was ok. I was one of several cars waiting in line to get into the lot so I know he was there for a while.

Don’t know if he is self important or self entitled but his actions sure came across that way. People honked their horns and waved their fists at him and he just kept talking on the phone and gesturing back.

It was another sign to me of how so many of us walk around in self constructed bubbles that keep us from recognizing that someone else might be upset or having a hard time.

Just another sign of how some people focus so intently on their own issues they can’t see beyond their own nose.

Awareness

I won’t claim that I have never done or will never do this but I will claim to be aware and conscience of others. Definitely not perfect, but awareness is a step in the right direction.

Maybe this will be the year that more people make it a priority but judging by the stories I read/hear and actions of the people I come into contact with I am skeptical about it.

But who knows, maybe I will be proved wrong.

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By Joshua Wilner

Hi, I am Josh Wilner and I am happy that you have decided to visit my corner of cyberspace. I am a writer/marketer/friend and family man. My professional background includes more than twenty years in working with businesses to help them do a better job of connecting with their existing and prospective customers. More specifically I have worked with companies of all sizes from the Fortune 500 to the new start up to help them build, develop and grow their social media and marketing plans. I love spending time with my family and friends. I enjoy music, reading, writing, playing sports and laughing.

6 comments

  1. Hi Josh

    There will always be self-centered morons. But I wonder are they there for lessons we need to learn in life, such as tolerance, patience. Do they also teach us what we should never be like.

    Maybe we have progressed up the ladder a rung or two beyond inconsiderate folks. Can’t do what we might actually like to do to them so I take a deep breath and smile one more time!

    Happy Holidays

    Mary

    1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
      Josh says:

      Hi Mary,

      Happy Holidays to you too. Hope they have been great so far. I like to think that you are right about our having moved several rungs up the consideration ladder. Some of these people really do a good job of helping us learn patience so maybe there are benefits that come from that.

  2. I’d like to think so.

    I recently had to give up on contact lenses and go to glasses, which screws up my peripheral view somewhat and has resulted in a couple of beeps, so I am trying to be ultra careful and mainly stay in my lane. But one day someone flipped me off on a side street and kept jamming on their brakes in hopes of grabbing my attention and causing an accident, and in that case I KNEW I couldn’t possibly have done anything to offend them, other than whatever they created in their head. It just made me feel like some people are in the world looking for trouble. I far prefer to meet those who wave in apology when something goes wrong. There’s something to be said for living in places where there just isn’t that much congestion and people are few and far between.

    1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
      Josh says:

      Hi Julie,

      I often wonder how much nonsense is self created/initiated. How many times have we thought someone was intentionally doing something to cause trouble for us without knowing for certain if they were even aware we were around,

      I am probably guilty of it.

  3. lori – Canada – I love figuring it all out and finding I was wrong, changing my mind, learning that I can get excited again about something I thought I was moving away from; changing life-long habits. Mostly I love my husband and my children; watching us all grow through the changes of life, family reunions and celebrations with a good bottle of port and a shrimp ring.
    Lori Gosselin says:

    Hi Josh,
    Came over to see what you were talking about (and because of the quotes) and to say Happy Holidays! I’m a J.R.R. Tolkien fan – our son Alex got us into it!

    I like how you call them Bubble People thought I believe we are all, to some degree or another, Bubble People. We are all walking around in our own little bubbles and sometimes we can see through the fog of our own lives into the lives of others.

    Anyway, got to run to breakfast and check the weather to see if we’ll be able to get out today!
    All the best!
    Lori

    1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
      Joshua says:

      Hi Lori,

      Happy Holidays to you too. Tolkien is great. Alex had excellent taste.

      It is ok to walk around in a bubble but only if you make an effort to come out of it sometimes, of course that is just my opinion so…

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