What Kind Of Blogger Are You?

My children and I have an ongoing conversation about when it is good to be part of the crowd and when you need to stand out. They know I am not shy about sharing my feelings and am willing to be vocal in standing up for what I believe in.

It is important to me they understand the value of not being just another face in the crowd but it is also important they recognize that sometimes you don’t want to be that guy/gal that everyone notices.


Some people will tell you there is a benefit in always being the center of attention and that when you do that good things come from it. It is the “bad PR is still good PR” philosophy but I don’t buy that as being something that works for everyone and everything. It is something that is good when you have leverage and a certain amount of power.

But if you don’t…

What Kind Of Blogger Are You?

Earlier today I deleted several emails I received from experts who put together newsletters that promised if I didn’t point, click and sign up today I would miss out on learning secrets for blogging and social media success that I was unlikely to find elsewhere.

What came across from these newsletters was a mixture of hype and fear. I don’t know about you but I find that to be a poor way to sell your services.

I don’t want to make my living based upon fear. I don’t want to be the kind of blogger who doesn’t know how to stand out from the crowd without scaring people into following/buying their services.

It is an easy sale to make but not a good basis for building a relationship and that is my focus.

People Power Social Media

People power social media and people are the motor that powers life. It is why I teach my children sometimes it is more important to get along with others than to be good at things.

Doesn’t mean that I don’t want them to be good at everything they do or that they shouldn’t make an effort but it does mean people like to spend time with those they like.

Especially when you get out of school and into the so called real world. I have worked with a bunch of people who weren’t particularly adept at what they did, but everyone liked them and sometimes that was enough to secure their positions.

And if you apply the same sort of of mindset/rule to social media it is easy to see the need to get along with people.

Are you the kind of blogger that makes their living off of fear or upon building relationships with others.

I know who I am, do you?

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By Joshua Wilner

Hi, I am Josh Wilner and I am happy that you have decided to visit my corner of cyberspace. I am a writer/marketer/friend and family man. My professional background includes more than twenty years in working with businesses to help them do a better job of connecting with their existing and prospective customers. More specifically I have worked with companies of all sizes from the Fortune 500 to the new start up to help them build, develop and grow their social media and marketing plans. I love spending time with my family and friends. I enjoy music, reading, writing, playing sports and laughing.

2 comments

  1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
    Joshua Wilner/A Writer Writes says:

    KDillabough You are worth more this way than with money.

  2. kaarinadillabough – Business coach, mentor, muse: lover of life & livin' it to the max! Former Olympic broadcaster/coach. Single malt fan. Passionate about helping others succeed.
    KDillabough says:

    Since I don’t want you to cry :)…for me, it’s all about relationships, communication, friendship, ‘raderie (as our friend Jayme would say), #TeamBlogJack, writing from the heart and hoping it touches others, being of service. That means I’m probably never going to be a millionaire in dollars, but I’m a multi-millionaire in the life I live: full, rich and blessed. Cheers! Kaarina

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