Who Is In Control Of Your Online Identity?

What does your online identity say about you?

Boring headline, important topic and one I think about for personal and professional reasons.

Every day people wind up here through a variety of Internet searches and while I am always interested in what keywords drive people here the two that are always at the top are these Joshua Wilner and Josh Wilner.

That is because I am not the only guy out there with my name, there are a few more. Some years ago I would have had little concern about this because what those other guys did would probably not have affected me.

But times change.

My Identity and The Internet

Since I am not independently wealthy and work is not an option I try to make a point to take control of my online identity. When people run a search for “Joshua Wilner” I want me to come up and not because of ego.

It is because people do things and some of those things are not the kind that you want to be associated with. As far as I know the men who share my name are good people but what would happen if one of them wasn’t.

What would happen if they were indicted and convicted of some horrific crime? What would happen if they became the next Madoff or Night Stalker?

It is possible that people could mistake me for them. It is possible that prospective employers and colleagues could mistake me for them and that could have negative consequences that I would prefer not to deal with.

The Difference Between Paranoia and “Insurance”

Some of you might think of this as being paranoid but I prefer to be think of this as being similar to “insurance.”

What it means is that I don’t spend my days wondering and worrying about what could happen but I do try and take basic steps to protect myself.

This blog has been an excellent tool for generating business and for helping me continue to work on my writing skills. It has been a very useful tool for meeting people and for helping to continue to educate myself about things that are of interest personally and professionally.

So there are multiple benefits that come from writing here, interacting with others and building links that make it more likely that people will find me online.

This is part of how I try to manage my online identity and the perception people have of me.

Manage Versus Control

In a professional capacity I often hear people talk about the need to control the message and conversation that is taking place about their company/brand but I am not convinced that we can do it, if we ever could.

There are too many channels of communication, too many ways/places for people to talk so I am an advocate of trying to manage those conversations.

Create a hub for conversation and try to funnel/direct people to it. Give them a place to interact with you and you create an environment in which you can try and manage what goes on.

It is why I encourage brands to start the engagement long before their social media channels light up with angry comments, tweets and status updates.

That provides you with the opportunity to benefit from the environment you created. People are more willing to continue to engage in rational discussions about what happened and how you intend to deal with it.

If you did a good job at engaging and building community it is the time when your apology for what went wrong is likely to be most effective, but that is a topic that is big enough for its own post(s).

What About You?

Do you ever think or worry about your online identity? Is this is a discussion you have at work or with your family?

Would love to hear your thoughts.

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By Joshua Wilner

Hi, I am Josh Wilner and I am happy that you have decided to visit my corner of cyberspace. I am a writer/marketer/friend and family man. My professional background includes more than twenty years in working with businesses to help them do a better job of connecting with their existing and prospective customers. More specifically I have worked with companies of all sizes from the Fortune 500 to the new start up to help them build, develop and grow their social media and marketing plans. I love spending time with my family and friends. I enjoy music, reading, writing, playing sports and laughing.

2 comments

  1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
    Joshua Wilner/A Writer Writes says:

    AdrienneSmith Hi Adrienne,
    No explanation needed. I am sorry for your loss, that is never easy. Life is good but always filled with challenges and changes.
    I agree with you about blogs, they are wonderful.

  2. Adrienne – Houston, TX – Adrienne Smith's passion has always been to help others. She started having tremendous success with her blog in early 2011 and over time she's built an awesome community. She teaches others how to do the same in her course, “Build a Blog Community”. She currently consults with entrepreneurs to help them understand what's missing and why they aren't succeeding.
    AdrienneSmith says:

    I don’t necessarily worry about it Josh because I have nothing to hide and I’m a good person.  Now on the same not I’ve been bashed horribly in the past but of course it wasn’t warranted and it ended up hurting the other guy instead of me.  My community was nowhere as big as it is now but they rallied to my side because he judged me not even knowing me.
    I think it’s kind of funny though because there is an actress with my same name and I beat her in the search engine.  I do love that.
    You know how I feel about having blogs though.  I think it’s the best place for people to get to know the real you and have those conversations so that way it won’t go ugly on the social platforms.  Okay, we hope it won’t but we can’t control everyone.
    Love the new theme by the way.  I know I haven’t been by in awhile.  Rough start to this month.  Oh and I LOVE the pics too Josh!  Nice my friend.  Now have a good weekend okay!
    ~Adrienne

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