What Is The Point Of Writing?

A fellow blogger said they didn’t want to insult me, but noticed my posts don’t receive many comments and asked how I keep going.

“What is the point of writing if no one comments or reacts to what you have posted?”

“I don’t spend time worrying about social proof. There have always been bloggers who received more comments and shares than I did or do.”

“But how do you keep going if you don’t hear from anyone. How do you know if anyone likes what you are doing?”

It is a reasonable question and I have always thought about it on and off. My answer has been relatively consistent.

“I write because it is important to me. It helps me clarify my thoughts, feelings and ideas. It is like breathing.

Sometimes it is how I share some thoughts with others.”

When they asked me how to monetize it that was when I knew we probably weren’t going to see eye-to-eye on this and that is ok.

What If No One Responds?

I won’t lie and say my ego has never been involved in this or tweaked because others got writing jobs and or opportunities that were never offered to me.

It has happened several times and I have rarely been told why I wasn’t chosen.

The best I got was a comment from someone that all of the people who were chosen had a better network than I did.

Some of those people were and maybe still are better writers but not all. Some are awful but you have to have a thick skin with the writing game.

So much of this is subjective and that classic example I use is Mark Twain on Jane Austen.

I haven’t any right to criticise books, and I don’t do it except when I hate them. I often want to criticise Jane Austen, but her books madden me so that I can’t conceal my frenzy from the reader; and therefore I have to stop every time I begin. Everytime I read ‘Pride and Prejudice’ I want to dig her up and beat her over the skull with her own shin-bone.- Letter to Joseph Twichell, 13 September 1898

You could argue it is better to receive a response like Twain’s than nothing but you could also argue against that too.

Experience proved to me there is no accounting for taste and that what you think is fantastic others may hate and what you think is fair might be called amazing.

So I write and hope that I produce something I think is solid and not junk.

More often than not I find my own criticism more painful than not receiving responses to things where I poured my heart out and or was vulnerable.

Remember that thick skin I mentioned earlier, if you want to publish you have to have it or work on developing it.

Sometimes it is worth having a few different places to write because it provides you with different opportunities to explore your voice in different ways.

Goodbye Weekend

Been a rough weekend for a variety of reasons ranging from some health hiccups to aggravation about life changes.

If I had my druthers I’d take a few more days off to make up for the time I lost and hope this feeling of malaise passed.

That is not an option I’ll choose to activate now.

Life has these moments and sometimes the best way to manage is to pretend you’re an airplane flying through some clouds.

It will be a little darker for a moment and then clear sunlight will return.

So I remind myself that I have some big accomplishments to feel good about, things that I thought might take longer than they did.

Wasn’t so long ago that I was stressed out about some of them and now…I am not.

Sometimes the best way to get past a challenge is to go through.

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By Joshua Wilner

Hi, I am Josh Wilner and I am happy that you have decided to visit my corner of cyberspace. I am a writer/marketer/friend and family man. My professional background includes more than twenty years in working with businesses to help them do a better job of connecting with their existing and prospective customers. More specifically I have worked with companies of all sizes from the Fortune 500 to the new start up to help them build, develop and grow their social media and marketing plans. I love spending time with my family and friends. I enjoy music, reading, writing, playing sports and laughing.

2 comments

  1. Overall I think people marvel as those of us who write even when we don’t get tons of comments. I get the same about my blogs and my YouTube channels. Thing is, I love writing, and at least from my business blog it helps reinforce my authority and expertise in what I “try” to do for a living (it’s been a while since I started taking care of Mom). And, without my business blog, I might not have been able to finish writing my 2nd book on leadership, because it’s content you can re-use for other things. Still waiting for your compilation! 🙂

    1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
      Joshua Wilner says:

      That love for writing along with the knowledge of the additional benefits it brings is huge. That makes all the difference in continuing and not viewing this as a something we grind out because we ‘have’ to.

      Well, maybe ‘have’ to is partially correct but it is tied to the joy of writing and that is enough.

      One day there will be some sort of compilation, probably need to shrink the number of blogs I have going to make that happen.

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