Life Is About Priorities


My daughter asked me how long I plan on playing basketball for and I told her I will do it until I can’t move or it is not fun any more.

“But daddy, aren’t you getting kind of old for it?”

I laughed and told her I was young enough to do almost anything I want to do. She laughed and told me that I was still too old to do certain things and I told her life is about priorities and the choices we make.

Can’t blame her for asking because sometimes the day after the mornings hurt a little bit. Sometimes it takes a bit longer to work out the kinks and to stand up straight.

My game isn’t predicated upon talent. It is built upon trying to out hustle, out muscle and outwork the other side.

I am still willing to dive for balls, set picks and run through whomever is in the way to get to where I am going.

Twenty years ago I could play like this every day and ever think about making adjustments because time hadn’t had its way with me.

Today I can go three or four times a week but only if I give my body a break between it all. Experience has taught me that without that rest I just don’t have it.

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It took a long time to accept that things had changed. For a while I blamed the shortcomings on my own lack of talent and figured I just needed to improve a couple parts of my game, but it was more than that.

Life Is About Priorities

If you could turn the clock back 30 years ago to see what I was doing you would have found me hiking through the Judean desert, wandering the streets of Jerusalem or maybe hanging out somewhere around the Golan Heights.

That teenager would have told you that he was certain that in two years he’d leave the U.S. to go to college in Israel and that there was a good chance that was where he would choose to build his life.

Life surprised him and he ended up taking a different path and now the perspective I bring to my personal and professional worlds is entirely different than what he or I would have thought.

Kind of funny to refer to him as he when it is me I am talking about, but even though I remember being 16 so much has happened I can’t be him any more than he could have become me.

The one area I suppose I can be certain of is he would have looked at the man we have become today and asked what the hell happened to our hair and wondered how I couldn’t have maintained the  six pack and muscles.

That 16 year-old would never have understood how easy life is when you have no responsibilities and the challenges of managing time when you do.

But he would have been happy to see that we didn’t become social climbers or choose to measure our self worth based upon the size of our house, cars we drive or clothes we wear.

He would be pleased to see that we value education and experiences and that we taught our children to never be ignorant enough to try and make others feel badly by badmouthing them for what they don’t have.

The Value Of Experiences

Sometimes people give me a hard time about some of the stories I tell about different experiences I have had. Sometimes they ask what I have now and I laugh and shake my head.

I laugh because I have a ton of experiences that are present day and those who know me best understand my focus is upon continuing to build a foundation that provides the opportunity to enjoy more.

When I shake my head it is because I wonder if maybe I have done a poor job of communicating those things or asking if the reason they didn’t hear is because so many people have trouble listening.

They don’t ask questions because they want to know your answer but because it is a bridge that allows them to take a breath so they can continue to talk about themselves.

Or maybe it is a combination of the two.

Does it matter why or how?

Maybe.

From a professional standpoint I think about it because my job is to communicate thoughts and ideas and I pay attention to how I am doing there.

I suppose since I find storytelling and communication interesting on a personal level it makes it easy for me to spend more time thinking about it too.

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Every time I look at the photo above I wish I could just walk into the picture.

I’d swim and canoe/sail around the lake and probably take a hike too. I’d have more than a few adventures, I just know it.

Sometimes I look at the photo and think about how I got it as part of a free stock photo service and wonder how many other bloggers will use it in a post.

Will that affect its usefulness for this post? What kind of impact, if any, will it have upon this post?

It reminds me of my desire to become a better photographer and to spend more time working with multimedia so that I can become more effective as using it to help tell a story.

Life is about priorities and figuring out what is important, meaningful and significant to us.

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By Joshua Wilner

Hi, I am Josh Wilner and I am happy that you have decided to visit my corner of cyberspace. I am a writer/marketer/friend and family man. My professional background includes more than twenty years in working with businesses to help them do a better job of connecting with their existing and prospective customers. More specifically I have worked with companies of all sizes from the Fortune 500 to the new start up to help them build, develop and grow their social media and marketing plans. I love spending time with my family and friends. I enjoy music, reading, writing, playing sports and laughing.

5 comments

  1. I decided a few weeks ago that I should make more of an effort when it comes to looking after myself. It’s easy to get into a habit of not doing when you’re at home all day.

    I figured I’m not getting any younger and more exercise would give me more energy and help me get rid of my beer gut! It would also mean I can keep up with my kids a bit better. I’ve managed to shed 21 pounds so far. I never thought I would get into running but I kind of enjoy it now.

    1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
      Joshua says:

      Twenty one pounds? That is awesome.

      I keep trying to get into running but I just don’t get the same high from it as I do from playing ball. But I keep coming back to it because you can do it almost anywhere and it doesn’t require other people.

      1. Thanks. I’m getting there.

        That is the beauty of running. I can just get out there and do it.

         I miss playing Tennis but my regular Tennis buddy moved back to England so running it is for now!

  2. Your daughter seems to be the one who really pushes you. Interesting.
    Btw, I’m reading the book, The Prime Ministers. Did you read it? I bet you would like it.

    1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
      Joshua says:

      I haven’t read it yet, but I have heard good things about it. I think both kids push me in different ways, she just ‘benefited’ from being the focal point recently.

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