A Knife In The Back

The best way to begin a holiday weekend is by being sucker punched and stabbed in the back.  Think about your favorite books and movies and you’ll probably come up with a few that follow this model.

Hell, I might have even written a couple of stories that used a similar outline, kind of reminds me of a scene between Rick and Ilsa in Casablanca.

The clip below is really a different situation entirely, but at the moment it feels close enough so we will run with it.

Communication Breakdown

I suppose I should let you know in advance this post isn’t a teaser. You are not going to be given the sordid details of what happened because there are boundaries in blogging and some things don’t need to be shared.

Instead we’ll talk about how communication is important in every facet of your life, including business and that sometimes the easiest way to avoid problems is to do a better job of communicating with others.

Not everyone can do that and some find it impossible to talk about things. Sometimes that is because they don’t know how and sometimes it is because they don’t trust anyone else to be as smart, clever and or intelligent as they are.

So they set the bar so high that others cannot possibly meet their expectations making it easier for them to convince themselves that they are the anointed ones and that any idea that doesn’t come from their lips is pathetic, cheap and useless.

How To Deal With Those Situations

The biggest challenge with dealing with these situations is that you aren’t always aware that they exist. Sometimes the duplicitous and conniving individual you are dealing with manages to get by because they are protected by the patronage of another and sometimes you just don’t see it coming.

However, if you are aware that you are dealing with a snake whose head you cannot cut off and body you cannot trample you still have options.

One is to convince said snake that you would not be a good meal to feast upon. Perhaps it is because you are a crusty old gent whose skin is far too tough to chew upon and whose blood is far too acidic.

The thing is that you can’t rely upon the snake to be smart enough to recognize you will cause it indigestion and or that they will break their teeth upon your rough hide.

And even if the event doesn’t kill you it does cause a certain amount of pain and irritation.

So you can always try to reason with the snake and demonstrate that you wear a suit of armor under your pants and that your heels are outfitted with spurs.

What If It Doesn’t Work?

What do you do if it doesn’t work? What happens if you can’t cut off the head, trample the body or convince the snake that there are smarter choices to make?

Well, you can choose to just let the snake eat you or you can fight.

Sometimes it makes you feel better to leave the snake with a reminder or reminders that you are not to be trifled with but the real question is whether you will walk away with your own set of scars to remember the snake by.

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By Joshua Wilner

Hi, I am Josh Wilner and I am happy that you have decided to visit my corner of cyberspace. I am a writer/marketer/friend and family man. My professional background includes more than twenty years in working with businesses to help them do a better job of connecting with their existing and prospective customers. More specifically I have worked with companies of all sizes from the Fortune 500 to the new start up to help them build, develop and grow their social media and marketing plans. I love spending time with my family and friends. I enjoy music, reading, writing, playing sports and laughing.

6 comments

  1. I came across many snakes in the grass when I was employed.

    Not surprisingly, now I’m at home with my daughter I have to deal with them much less!

    My wife’s work has a tonne of them though. She tries to steer clear of the politics but inevitably you get dragged in whether you like it or not.

    1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
      Josh says:

      Hi Tim,

      I would be concerned if you said you had office politics to deal with now. Kids bring their share of crazy stuff, but the office politics aren’t part of it. 🙂

      I suspect it doesn’t matter where we are, you get stuck having to deal with them.

  2. Hi Josh

    Ah yes, the snake in the grass! Venom can be deadly. Had an especially bad one where I worked. She managed to get the best boss I ever had, fired. She stayed for awhile and moved on. I don’t know what the gal was thinking (as in 3rd new boss since) she brought her back. We had long discussions about this and she knew she was trouble. She ended up giving me a great deal of grief in 2010. Then I got laid off and she got into some serious trouble as she dropped the ball and cost the company money. Went back a few times and had to deal with her but it wasn’t as bad for me as I knew I wasn’t staying. She is still there and hopefully she is unhappy as she was 2+ years ago when she threatened to quit. Snakes pay for it in the end with high blood pressure, heart problems, weight problems, etc. And they do have to live with their arrogance.

    Mary

    1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
      Josh says:

      Hi Mary,

      I think you are right. Sooner or later the chaos catches up with them and they pay for their actions. They make the workplace much more difficult and far less enjoyable.

  3. Office politics always baffled me. I see it in black and white – is it good for the customer? Does it increase profitability? Is it moral? OK, let’s get to work. Anything and everything beyond that and behind the scenes or against each other seems so foreign and irrelevant (which made me a great target). If that happens in the future I am kicking it upstairs for the masters to deal with.

    1. TheJackB – Someone complained that this page doesn’t tell you what to expect to find here in this blog so I aim to rectify this with the next line. I am a father who writes about life, parenting, business, politics and fiction. I don’t use an editorial calendar because I don’t map out what I am going to write that far in advance. The primary focus will be on things that relate to children and parenting. But the nifty thing about that is that encompasses a wide range of things. Sometimes I work with companies on their PR/Marketing efforts. If they provide products or services I will disclose it. Here is an incomplete list of companies that I am currently or have recently worked with: Nintendo, Philips Norelco, Subway, Frigidaire and Mattel. Want to know more about me, keep reading. If I wanted to provide a professional description it would looks similar to this: Jack has a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University Northridge. He has been writing for print and web publications for more than twenty years, covering a wide range of topics including: business, technology, parenting, politics, education, sports and religion. That is far too serious so I prefer to use something like: The Jack B. is a writer and author of 39 unpublished books and three screenplays. A former athlete and would be superhero he still fights for truth, justice and the American Way. Though he may look like a grown man, don’t fool yourself he is still a boy at heart. When he is not engaged in Walter Mitty like fantasies he is a husband, father and friend and blogs at TheJackB. Hmm…obviously I have since moved from Random Thoughts over to this place, but that is ok. This page is a work in progress which is a good description for me. I’ll probably tweak this on a regular basis so feel free to keep checking back in because you never know what might show up. I am a prolific writer and update frequently so don’t forget to scroll down the page to see what nugget of wisdom you just might have missed. Here is a short selection of posts to get you started. A Father Describes Parenting A Father’s Burden How Sister’s Helped to Train A Father of “Daddy’s Girl” Inside the Blogger’s Studio- A Dream, Er Nightmare The GermoPhobe What I Dream About I am In Love Becoming a Dad Dad’s Most Important Job A Decade of Dad Grandpa Donuts Why Your Post Sucks and Everyone Hates Your Blog A Letter To My Children- Things That Matter A Letter To My Children-2011 Dad Balances Fear Versus Reality Q&A With Daddy Blogger JackB Save The Last Dance For Me- 75 Years of Marriage An Uncertain Certainty Four Generations & A Wedding The Best Thing My Father Ever Said To Me 1 Foolproof Way To Become a Better Writer The Story Of A House- The Final Days He Died A Hero Twenty-Five Links That Will Make You A Better Writer/Blogger Thanks for coming by, I hope you like it. If you want to reach me use the contact form or try talk-to-jacknow-at-gmail-dotcom You can also find more information by clicking About Me and reading my profile there. Also, I encourage you to sign up for my newsletter using the form on the top right hand side of the page.
      Josh says:

      Hi Julie

      I hear you. I remember my first job and how shocked I was to discover office politics and that some people didn’t do their jobs. I was naive enough to believe that people would just go to work and do what they needed to do.

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